Raising kids is hard. I say that because I did not get the book at the hospital! I hope that all children big and small will understand that they are amazing, it is that simple. They are strong, independant and have so many gifts. They are UNIQUE
The cycles that we all race thru are crazy and I do remember some of it. I do know that life is short, it is to short to regret, be mad, think negative thoughts, be unhappy.
Do what you WANT, live how you WANT, don't please anyone but yourself.
I want to share this list from a blogger that I have found. He gives me inspiration and an upbeat feel.
Life is a rush and we are living in a frantic tempo. Not because we want to, but because the majority works that way and we just go with the flow. However, we can divide and let go of things that prevent losing our minds.
One person is composed of things he does and does not do. Those things define our actions and how we formulate our thoughts in actions.
Sometimes we have bad habits and mindset that we are not aware of.
We will focus on the things we can let go of to start with the relaxation and start walking the path of the Zen.
1. Let go of comparing
Comparing is taking the uniqueness of every individual to a level where he is no longer the only one. Along with comparing we convince ourselves that we are not unique and that we possess things as everybody else. Measuring our attainments or character with others will not bring any good nor will direct us on the path of the Zen.
Let go and relax the mind.
2. Let go of competition
Competition is a good thing when we approach it Zen-istic. The competition of bettering ourselves and being better than yesterday should be one of the main goals on a daily bases. Competition should be replaced with awareness. It is okay to know what other people or other firms are capable of, but don’t face that as a cold blooded game. It’s you process rather than they.
3. Let go of judgments
These cursive things are not needed in any case. Judging people is lame, poor and initiating a sign of how low we can go. Never judge people. That’s what the lowest class of people do and I know that no one wants to belong there, even the ones down there if they were aware of it.
4. Let go of anger
“For every minute you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Anger is destructive. There is no other way to explain that toxic emotion. If we are not in control of it, it will make us do things that we may regret for the rest of our lives.
Take control over anger and you will see better results.
5. Let go of regrets
Regret has nothing to do with anything. We just feel it because we thing we did fatal mistake while there is no such a thing. There are things to learn from rejection if that’s the reason to regret something.
Mistake is a lesson. Plug that in your mindset.
6. Let go of Worrying
As fear is imaginative, worrying is something that we create with the bad part of the brain. Worrying that your kid is too late to come home will do nothing if you don’t go and do something about it, while in most cases he is young and walking around the neighborhood with his friends. There is no place for worrying if there is action and rightful decisions.
7. Let go of blame
Blaming is the easiest way to get out of trouble. We give the hot stone to another person. We are a team and when a team fails, it’s not the problem of one, but of all. We need to start function as a whole and keep supporting our mistake with fixes. Until then, blame will stay as a bad solution to every problem.
8. Let go of guilt
As blame, guilt is the outcome of a possible mistake. If you start to feel guilty about something, it’s time to take course of actions and fix the problem or whatever the reason for guilt is. We don’t even need to start feeling guilty to acknowledge that the weight in the soul is dragging us down unless we do something to lift it up and throw it away.
9. Let go of fear
Fear is a stimulant. In most cases toxic.
The reason I said in most cases because we usually forget to divide fear and danger.
An unrealistic perception of life is the bases of fear. People are not willing to live; people are not willing to die. The fear is simply because we don’t live in a realistic life, but we are living in our mind. Fear is always about what is going to happen next. That means fear is about things that do not exist.
On the other side, the realistic things such as energy and matter, danger is very real.
10. Have a proper belly laugh at least once a day (especially of it’s about your inability to let go of any or all of the above).
When we’re able to laugh at our problems, we automatically win causing our problems a funny way to solve them.
By being aware of the things above we will start to change our momentum situation, even if it takes time to do that.